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Fear, self-pity, and despair in todays events.

November 27, 20243 min read

Fear, self-pity, and despair.

What does this bring up in you?

What do they have in common?

Fear, self-pity, and despair are all felt experiences.

However, letting them lead will never allow growth or happiness.

But why?

An idea... because it positions us in the role of the victim.

Victim to circumstance.

Circumstances are also very felt experiences. They often are out of our control. What is in our control is what we do with that circumstance. How we position ourselves with it.

Being a victim to circumstance means we are powerless.

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I don't know about you, but... I don't want to feel powerless when it comes to how I feel about my life.

If the way we navigate through and/or fix, change, transform circumstances comes from SOMEONE or SOMETHING else doing something for us or giving something to us, can we ever end up on the other side of the victim role?

Fear, self-pity, and despair will always find their way back in if our way through them come from something outside of ourselves.

We must cultivate our path within...FIRST.

It's how we position ourselves when those things arise that matters most. THEN... we can decide how to move.

If our fears lead us, do we ever learn to move towards them, with them, or through them?

If our self-pity leads us, through its ideas of "it's them, it's this thing, it's something else outside of me keeping me from getting where I want to go" do we ever walk the path of the life we want to live?

If our despair causes a loss of hope internally, can we create something new?

Here's the paradox.

As humans, I would argue we all need others in some capacity.

The trick is this... we must not fall victim to circumstance, or else we are never the creator in our story. We can never walk through the hero's journey and be our own hero.

To me this means we don't figure out how to seek out the help we may need and if we do, we don't change in the long run.

It comes from within. It comes from YOU, and it always has.

AND... that is the best part of this.

It's on you, it always has been.

Victor Frankil... Austrian neurologist, psychologist, philosopher, and holocaust survivor spoke about in his book "Man's search for meaning" about the ones who made it through.

He mentioned the ones who could imagine a future of hope, who had a purpose in their life, a reason to live... be that love, goals, or responsibility... were the ones who maintained resilience through the suffering.

We can take this idea into the gym, into our own path of health and fitness. We can use a movement practice as one small way we end up proving to ourselves we aren't a victim, and we are capable.

I have seen countless people begin there and let this whole idea I'm speaking of bleed into their entire life.

SO... where will you begin again?

See you out there,

Coach D.

Born in Texas, Daniel began his Strength & Conditioning journey in high school where he found more joy in the actual training for sport than the sport itself. While pursuing a Sport & Exercise Science in college, he was blessed to become an intern at a local Strength & Conditioning gym that was also a CrossFit gym. It was there under the guidance of his first Mentor he began his coaching journey. This eventually led to taking over ownership of CrossFit Bothell in Bothell, WA in Jan of 2020. After 4 years of learning and growth, he is excited to start a brand new gym community in Bellingham, WA. Daniel believes in what a gym can do for humans. How it can become a place to receive coaching and feedback, to be vulnerable and struggle with others. He believes it's a place to learn, grow, and adapt in many more ways than simply improving ones body. He believes in a holistic approach to fitness.

Daniel Weaver

Born in Texas, Daniel began his Strength & Conditioning journey in high school where he found more joy in the actual training for sport than the sport itself. While pursuing a Sport & Exercise Science in college, he was blessed to become an intern at a local Strength & Conditioning gym that was also a CrossFit gym. It was there under the guidance of his first Mentor he began his coaching journey. This eventually led to taking over ownership of CrossFit Bothell in Bothell, WA in Jan of 2020. After 4 years of learning and growth, he is excited to start a brand new gym community in Bellingham, WA. Daniel believes in what a gym can do for humans. How it can become a place to receive coaching and feedback, to be vulnerable and struggle with others. He believes it's a place to learn, grow, and adapt in many more ways than simply improving ones body. He believes in a holistic approach to fitness.

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